Need some honest opinions. (Mods move if necessary)

[4t5]

... [wife's] brother is in jail in Oklahoma....her parents have been paying his drug debts ...They are just worried about there son...They are always making excuses for him...Her parents have never really asked for advice... My mother-in-law is a HUGE liberal. What would you do?

Stay away. Let them handle it however they want. No matter what you do, that's what is going to happen anyway.
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[WildBill]

Have I done something to offend you? If so, let me be the first to apologize. If I haven't then what gives with the tone of your emails?

No you haven't but apparently I have offended you. I sincerely apologize. I don't want this thread to get locked so I will delete my posts.

[pcgizzmo]

Have I done something to offend you? If so, let me be the first to apologize. If I haven't then what gives with the tone of your emails?

No you haven't but apparently I have offended you. I sincerely apologize. I don't want this thread to get locked so I will delete my posts.

No, don't worry. It's really hard to tell from a post someone's tone. Possibly it's me that read into your posts. I'm fine and you are to. I REALLY did value your posts so please leave them.

[Photoman]

This is textbook family addiction stuff...

Your wife needs to say to her parents, "Until you disengauge from your son and contact the police, my family will not have ANYTHING to do with you."

The parents need to say to their son, "Until you get off drugs, we will not have ANYTHING to do with you."

Harsh? Yes, but it's the only thing that works.

[baldeagle]

My options as you put them are:

Cut off all contact from the parents and brother and distance myself from them as long as this continues.

Go to the police and possibly face a gang related hit because of it.

You lost me on this one. How do you think that getting the police involved would lead to a hit? What you've written about the bad guys makes it sound like they might beat someone up, even to the point of death, but a hit is a much different thing.

[pcgizzmo]

My options as you put them are:

Cut off all contact from the parents and brother and distance myself from them as long as this continues.

Go to the police and possibly face a gang related hit because of it.

You lost me on this one. How do you think that getting the police involved would lead to a hit? What you've written about the bad guys makes it sound like they might beat someone up, even to the point of death, but a hit is a much different thing.

They've made the following threat They are currently wanting $1500 dollars and say that if it's not paid that they will put a hit out on my brother-in-law. If his parents go to the police then they will come to them.

Also, today the plot thickens. My in-laws have spoken with a person at the prison my brother-in-law was at. He's been transferred but the prison he was in is where the calls are coming from. They know it's from his ex-cell mate. The guy is a member in an Arian gang and is in prison for drugs and theft. The prison has started an internal investigation. They are going to come down on this guy which is going to cause problems. The internal affairs of the prison are wanting to talk to my in-laws. If they tell them all of the payments they have made and they get traced back to all the people they have paid over the time he's been in there it's not going to be good for them.

Here is what I've done tonight. We have unlisted our phone #. We are telling my wife's brother we sold our house and moving to an apt. while we build a new one. This is not odd because we intend to do that anyway but were just not ready yet. He doesn't have to know that though. We are also telling him that he is not to mail us but to send anything for my wife through her parents.

I need to find someone in the DFW area that is highly qualified to come to my house and do a tactical survey and help me plan a defense from each room in my house against multiple attackers. If anyone knows someone I'm open to talking with them. I would prefer someone w/ a vast amount of law enforcement (possibly SWAT) and or military experience as well as experience in training others. Someone that's been in a fire fight would be nice but I know that's asking a lot.

[Dave2]

Here is what I've done tonight. We have unlisted our phone #. We are telling my wife's brother we sold our house and moving to an apt. while we build a new one. This is not odd because we intend to do that anyway but were just not ready yet. He doesn't have to know that though. We are also telling him that he is not to mail us but to send anything for my wife through her parents.

Next time you talk to your BIL, you might mention how blessed you are to get a new job so quickly after falling victim to the last round of layoffs. Or maybe that should wait for a bit, just so it won't be so obvious to clever 3rd parties that you're eliminating all the easy tracking methods.

Would it be too paranoid to change license plates on your car(s)? The few times I've tried to track somebody down, I've been very insistent on not crossing the "creepy" line. So while I know that finding someone can be done, I don't know how to do it.