srothstein wrote: ...I have never understood why some officers have trouble saying they made a mistake and apologizing for stopping a person incorrectly. I have done it when I stopped cars that matched the description of a suspect as soon as I was sure it was not the suspect. I have found most people will accept the mistaken stop as soon as it is explained and hope I catch the right guy next time.
I don't either.
Once I got stopped in Beeville. When I handed the officer my DL and CHL, he looked a bit confused/concerned, looked at my license plate, asked me to wait, and went back to his car for a bit. He came back, told me he had made a mistake with one of the digits of my license plate when he first called it in, and of course the info that originally came back didn't match my truck, so he thought it might be stolen. He apologized for the trouble, I said no problem, and we went our merry ways. It was an understandable mistake, he checked out the situation without being overbearing, and when he figured out he goofed, he was straightforward about it. I had no problem with that at all, and don;t think any less of him for it.
But I hear on forums, and have witnessed, police officers who frankly bully people. I know officers are supposed to take control of a situation, but some seem to think this means berating and badgering people (I saw this in the military as well). As a vollie firefighter/emt, I see county and DPS police at traffic accidents, fires, and other incidents pretty regularly. Most fly straight and level, but there are a few that can't seem to speak without putting an edge on everything, using tone of voice, profanity, name calling...
In particular, there is one local deputy that seems to be cruising for a fight. I have never heard him speak in less than a belligerant voice and manner. Heck, at one "controlled burn gone out of control" fire scene, my wife (helping with the "rehab" of firefighters, but we always look after the cops too) walked out to the road side where he was and offered him a bottle of water. He snapped at her "WHY DID YOU START THIS FIRE!?" apparently thinking she was one of the landowners or something. !?! Never occurred to him to identify who she was, just wanted to lash out at somebody. Had a similar experience with him at a farm accident one time. I wonder how many of his arrests and stops could have been handled at a lower level, but joe citizen got tired of his mouth and told him something rude right back, and it's off to the races.
This kind of attitude is not the majority of cops, but just like blood, a little of it goes a long way and makes a big (negative) impression. I tend to believe these are the same cops who get upset when they find their actions on Youtube....
I also think people remember stuff like this for a long time afterward. We had a saying in the Air Force (my part of it, anyway). "One dumb stunt wipes out a whole lotta attaboys." I don't think this limited to just the USAF.