Visiting friends' homes

[C-dub]

GET OUT! Of Arkansas and Louisiana I mean. lol
That's just strange.

No Bama Man, I'm dying to hear how the group took your outing. Were they pro, con, or what?

[surprise_i'm_armed]

Lasertex said:
I know I saw it on this forum. Something to the effect of "talking about my concealed carry is like talking about wearing underwear. You don't mention your underwear so you don't mention your concealed wear either." Something along that line.

That was me. On a few occasions I have said that "I don't share with anyone at church whether I'm wearing boxers
or briefs. And I also don't share that I'm carrying. These are both private decisions that I don't have to
share with the world."

I'll have to take steps to copyright that. Y'all will owe me royalties soon. :-)

SIA

[CLTX11]

My story goes just like C-Dub's

I carry everywehre I go including many friends with kids, nobody has ever noticed. I have been on the floor rolling around and picking up the kids etc with nobody noticing.

Along those lines, my fiance knows I carry everywhere. Well I went with her, her mom, my buddy and his daughter to go pick out flower girl dresses for my wedding....this Saturday, 10-10-09 (I am registered @ Bed Bath & Beyond for anyone who wants to contribute, just e-mail me ) My fiance was giving me a hug and put her hand right on my gun and was like what the hell

Everyone was like what, she said nothing and they all knew since they are close and support me since I will protect them.



My finace's parents are not anti-gun but they do not own any, they didnt know I was carrying for the longest time. Out of curiosity I asked them if they could tell and non of them did after a week of being with them. They were not only surprised but asked me tons of questions wanting to know about it all including the gun so I showed them how the semi-auto worked.

Another really good friend of mine knows I have one but never asks, he has a 7 & 4 year old and 3 week old. I rarely carry there since we are usually watching football and drinking some beer and I leave it at home. Nobody ever question it, as it should be concealed carry on!

[surprise_i'm_armed]

CLTX11 said: I showed them how the semi-auto worked.

Did you plug the TV in their family room, Elvis Presley style? :-)

SIA

[No Bama Man]

GET OUT! Of Arkansas and Louisiana I mean. lol
That's just strange.

No Bama Man, I'm dying to hear how the group took your outing. Were they pro, con, or what?

C-dub - The particular couple whos house we were visiting are very close friends and know the wife and me each have a chl but I'm sure they never thought about us carrying in their home though. When the female friend blurted out "whats that? Is that a gun"? My wife several feet away (assuming I told the lady about the gun) said what, are you advertising the fact you are carrying? After that, being in shock do to being caught completely off guard, I'm not sure what was said. We were all a little uncomfortable about the situation. It may play out as it did with gunlock with the friend saying he would prefer I didnt carry in his home and then again maybe nothing else will be said...I hope.

I cant figure out what made her think gun so quickly, heck, maybe they were/are carrying.

[No Bama Man]

Right after I got my chl, my future son in law and I were moving some furniture which he arrived late to do, and we started discussing me carrying while at his home. Now my daughter lives there with him and I figure being engaged and all it is her home as well and she also has some say as to the "rules" of the house. He proceeds to tell me he doesnt want me to carry in his home which really ticked me off and I told him so. Now I see both sides of this, it is his home, but where is the respect and a little fear of confronting me. I would never tell my fiances father something like this. I never really cared for his liberal ways anyway and this didnt help.

I may not be right but I'm still his fiances father.

What do y'all think?

[seamusTX]

The particular couple whos house we were visiting are very close friends and know the wife and me each have a chl but I'm sure they never thought about us carrying in their home though. When the female friend blurted out "whats that? Is that a gun"?

The quick answer to that kind of question is, "Why would you think that?"

I know a couple of mature ladies who are huggers. Usually I see them coming and make sure they hug my chest. Twice, they have sneaked up on me and patted me right on the hardware. Neither batted an eyelash.

Maybe, being lifelong Texans, they take it for granted.

- Jim

[No Bama Man]

The quick answer to that kind of question is, "Why would you think that?"

- Jim

[seamusTX]

Between the time I composed my earlier message and the time it was posted, someone else posted a message that got in between. I have added a quote to my earlier message to make clear what I was talking about.

- Jim

[No Bama Man]

The quick answer to that kind of question is, "Why would you think that?"

I know a couple of mature ladies who are huggers. Usually I see them coming and make sure they hug my chest. Twice, they have sneaked up on me and patted me right on the hardware. Neither batted an eyelash.

Maybe, being lifelong Texans, they take it for granted.

- Jim[/quote]
I see...you're probably right. Thats kind of what I meant when I said 'heck, they may be carrying."

[suthdj]

Right after I got my chl, my future son in law and I were moving some furniture which he arrived late to do, and we started discussing me carrying while at his home. Now my daughter lives there with him and I figure being engaged and all it is her home as well and she also has some say as to the "rules" of the house. He proceeds to tell me he doesnt want me to carry in his home which really pi$$ed me off and I told his fat a $ $ so. Now I see both sides of this, it is his home, but where is the respect and a little fear of confronting me. I would never tell my fiances father something like this. I never really cared for his liberal foot anyway and this didnt help.

I may not be right but I'm still his fiances father.

What do y'all think?

I think he can move his own furniture.

[No Bama Man]

I think he can move his own furniture.

Actually I didn't word that very good. He arrived late to help me move some of my furniture. Like 1 1/2 hours late. Should have told him to get lost then. Really trying not to make my daughter unhappy.

Anyway, my question is, what do y'all think about my stance on him telling me not to carry in HIS (not his and my daughter's home) home? As a future son in law I dont think he should pick this fight myself. He is questioning my judgement in my view.

[Mithras61]

Right after I got my chl, my future son in law and I were moving some furniture which he arrived late to do, and we started discussing me carrying while at his home. Now my daughter lives there with him and I figure being engaged and all it is her home as well and she also has some say as to the "rules" of the house. He proceeds to tell me he doesnt want me to carry in his home which really pi$$ed me off and I told his fat a $ $ so. Now I see both sides of this, it is his home, but where is the respect and a little fear of confronting me. I would never tell my fiances father something like this. I never really cared for his liberal foot anyway and this didnt help.

I may not be right but I'm still his fiances father.

What do y'all think?

I think it may be worth bringing up the question of how they plan to ensure the safety of each other and their home together to him and your daughter. It may be that he hasn't given much thought to the subject, and she is assuming that he will take care of that just like Daddy did (I'm supposing you did, and that she knows so).

When I was a single fellow, I didn't give much thought to self-defense either (being as I'm a little on the largish side most folks don't want to mess with me), but it has become an increasing concern to me as I got married & started having kids. It was sort of a gradual thing that took place over a few years and culminated with the arrival of the Katricians, at which point I started keeping firearms around & taught my wife and kids about them and about protecting themselves.

At any rate, it may be worth pointing out to him a few facts of life (e.g. - he is taking on at least some level of responsibility for the health & safety of another person, when seconds count the cops are only minutes away, etc.).

BTW, I'm not saying the responsibility for her safety is all on him. She bears that responsibility as well, and may have not given the matter any thought, which is why I suggest you bring it up with both of them.

[Purplehood]

I would just tell him that if he wants to visit, it would have to be at my place as I am not coming over unarmed.

[No Bama Man]

I think it may be worth bringing up the question of how they plan to ensure the safety of each other and their home together to him and your daughter. It may be that he hasn't given much thought to the subject, and she is assuming that he will take care of that just like Daddy did (I'm supposing you did, and that she knows so).

When I was a single fellow, I didn't give much thought to self-defense either (being as I'm a little on the largish side most folks don't want to mess with me), but it has become an increasing concern to me as I got married & started having kids. It was sort of a gradual thing that took place over a few years and culminated with the arrival of the Katricians, at which point I started keeping firearms around & taught my wife and kids about them and about protecting themselves.

At any rate, it may be worth pointing out to him a few facts of life (e.g. - he is taking on at least some level of responsibility for the health & safety of another person, when seconds count the cops are only minutes away, etc.).

BTW, I'm not saying the responsibility for her safety is all on him. She bears that responsibility as well, and may have not given the matter any thought, which is why I suggest you bring it up with both of them.

Actually I did discuss with the both of them how they would defend themselves and they are willing to take their chances. I told him at one point that if I was around and someone were to try to harm him I would honor his wishes and allow this to happen and only use my gun to protect the rest of us. I really dont care for him much.