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My piano player is in ICU. He doesn’t have any family here and doesn’t get along with his family very well. We had set down sometime ago to discuss what his wishes were. I was to take care of his belongings and pets if something were to happen to him. I hold the dual power of attorneys also. All of that is legal garbage.

He went by ambulance to the ER last week. He has the flu and COPD. I have talked to him several times and have been to see him. They put him in ICU because at the time they didn’t have another bed available. Well last night/this morning at 12:30 they called me from the hospital and they have put him on the ventilator and then discovered his DNR. They called me and asked me what I wanted them to do. I counsel people what to do I don’t make those decisions, but now it appears to be me. I went to his house (thank God for LE education) and after some digging I found a brother and sister in South Carolina.

Please pray God will heal Glenn Koch and that his family will come take over the decision on what to do with the ventilator. They tried taking off this morning and he begin to go into cardiac arrest. They have revived him, sedated him, and put him back on the ventilator even after knowing he has a DNR. They said because they spoke to me and I said I wasn’t for sure. This is such a mess.

So very sorry. Prayers sent in his name.

For him and for you.

Hopefully he discussed the context of his DNR decision with you before naming you as his healthcare PoA?
I would encourage you to take action consistent with his wishes, should you feel you know them.
As difficult as this certainly is, he has, it seems, made his decisions known and only asked you to see they are carried out.

Having been through something similar with my Father, I know this is extremely difficult, but, would encourage you to act as the executor of your friends wishes, without taking on the responsibility for these difficult decisions. This is certainly not easy, I know.

I'm not a very prayerful person, but, I've said a prayer for strength and guidance for you and for the health of your friend.

Sincerest Regards.

Prayers sent

Prayer sent Carl. That's a tough position to be in.

Chas.

RoyGBiv wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 1:38 pm I would encourage you to take action consistent with his wishes, should you feel you know them.
As difficult as this certainly is, he has, it seems, made his decisions known and only asked you to see they are carried out.

This is the answer. “He has already made this decision.” That is what the DNR is. I don’t have to. Thank you.

Praying for healing within their family, and peace for you sir as you carry out the decision he's already made.

carlson1 wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 2:07 pm

RoyGBiv wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 1:38 pm I would encourage you to take action consistent with his wishes, should you feel you know them.
As difficult as this certainly is, he has, it seems, made his decisions known and only asked you to see they are carried out.

This is the answer. “He has already made this decision.” That is what the DNR is. I don’t have to. Thank you.

Prayers, Sir.

Prayers sent My Friend.

Prayers sent for both of you.

RoyGBiv wrote: ↑Mon Mar 28, 2022 1:38 pm Hopefully he discussed the context of his DNR decision with you before naming you as his healthcare PoA?
I would encourage you to take action consistent with his wishes, should you feel you know them.
As difficult as this certainly is, he has, it seems, made his decisions known and only asked you to see they are carried out.

Having been through something similar with my Father, I know this is extremely difficult, but, would encourage you to act as the executor of your friends wishes, without taking on the responsibility for these difficult decisions. This is certainly not easy, I know.


Sincerest Regards.

Roy has stated it best. It is not an easy choice to not help someone but their wishes are known. My prayers for his family, blood and Christian, and for you too my friend for strength to make the decision.

I agree with those who counsel to carry out your friend's explicitly stated wishes. He gave you that responsibility because he trusted you to faithfully carry it out. It is a hard thing to do, but it's not your choice to make - it was his and he made it.

Prayers sent for courage and the knowledge that you are doing what is right for your friend.

Oh my! What a tough spot to be in Carl. I am sending up prayers.

Joe

Praying and agreeing.