I accepted a request from my cousin (male, I will refer to as BM) and his girlfriend (MK) and 2 children to stay with me for a few weeks until he could collect his first paycheck and get his own place; I felt bad that he had burned all of his bridges and had nowhere to go. Well it wasn't long before my wife and I noticed there were about 24 dvd's missing from our collection; it's easy to notice as they way they are packed into the drawer. I approached him immediately to have him return them as they were finished watching them and was told they would. The dvd's never showed up and I decided to confront him. He explained that they had no movies of mine and they certainly didn't steal them, however he comes from a flock that has been highly accused of theft in the past, so at this point I am not believing him but I won't throw him out in the street with his kids either.
Then things take a slight turn, Facebook becomes involved. My wife posted a vague comment about a missing movie on her sister-in-laws page, and my cousin, BM, responds as well as leaving a negative post about my wife on his page the very next day, while they are still living with me. We decided it was time for them to go, since my wife is now furious and she is there alone with a hotheaded female, MK. My wife confronts MK in our home about the trash talking about her on FB and they end up having a venting session which seemed to end on good terms, however MK left the house with her children; a friend picked her up. The friend ends up jumping into the facebook argument and the trash is now flying in all directions. , (please note I did not partake).
BM and MK are now steadily trash talking my wife whom is firing back while I am face palming and trying to find my missing property in the horrible mess of a spare bedroom they left me. I decided I was mad enough to place all of his belongings in my driveway for him to pick up and waited for him. He thought it was best, for some reason, to bring the same woman whom injected herself into the facebook fray with degrading comments towards my wife, whom pulled her car into my driveway and with help from BM was loading it up. She was smug, laughing and talking load so my wife was sure to hear from the doorstep and as I noticed she was visibly mad I decided to tell her to "close your car doors get in your car and get off my property right now; you've packed enough". My wife was behind me saying the same thing: "She needs to get the hell out of here". The woman, instead of leaving, decides to approach and get into my wife's face raising her hand at her. There was some hair and face grabbing before I could separate them (it happened really fast). I pushed them both away from each other, middling myself, and the woman took a tumble into the yard and gets back up coming at my wife again. At this point, lame-brained BM decides to help restrain her and I told them both to leave. I called the cops and had them take a report of the incident, whom filed an assault record against the woman. They were long gone by the time the cops came out.
I am unsure of the process from here out, but I was told an investigator would call and take our statements. We said we would like to not press charges against her for assault, so who knows.
Now for the Never Again:
1. I will never again allow a person to come onto my property knowing he/she has ill will towards any of my family. Had I told her to turn around and leave immediately the scuffle would have never happened.
2. I will never again have someone move into my house for any period of time that is not a "sleepover". I also learned in this process that if you let someone stay with you, officially, you have to evict them from your home; you cannot have them just forceably removed. An eviction has to be written, and they have 30 days to respond, and if they dont I have to get an eviction authorization from a judge, etc, etc...
Learn from my mistakes.
