fm2 wrote:Part of your frustration is your sliding requirements.
I have been very consistent in pointing out that I don't often wear a belt, and when I do wear a belt, it is not one sufficient for a gun belt. When pressed about changing my wardrobe to include a gun belt, I thought I was pretty clear, I am not going to do that.
If wearing a belt is too much of a hassle and an unreasonable change, you should have just said so up front.
I thought I expressed, four times at least by your quotation, that I was not planning to routinely wear a gun belt.
Next time, I'll just post right up. Hear ye! Hear ye! No matter how many times you recommend it, I am not going to wear a gun belt!
What have you tried so far? You can also come to the forum day @ PSC and try holsters there.
I am having enough of a hard time finding ANY holster that doesn't require a belt. Then on top of that, it's not like I can just walk into Sportsman's Warehouse, unpackage their holsters, whip out my Sigma and start trying stuff on.
So I concede. I have tried my Smartcarry. I have evaluated (using pictures, descriptions, and holding them in my hand inside a package) a number of those which are available but I have not tried any of them with my own gun and my own clothing.
I don't know what PSC is BTW.
You should think about a small fixed blade knife for IWB carry.
wow.
Carrying a handgun is a change to most peoples lives. They make that change after the realization that they are responsible for their safety, and consider the handgun a benefit to to their personal safety plan. Some people don't think it's worth the bother.
What are some other key things that make people feel like outsiders?
The attitude you just expressed is the main one. The suggestion that I should carry a knife instead is another good example.
The whole idea that CCW is sort of like a clique you have to join along with learning new language, changing your clothing, changing your ideas about other unrelated things etc. It's the whole package. I don't expect most people who have been around guns all of their lives to understand this point. You have already been conditioned to believe that your outlook is normal. However I can tell you that as an adult who only in the past six months has been serious about owning or carrying a gun, the impact of the way this changes my lifestyle is just way too much. The vibe I get in general (and not just this forum, but others and other face to face contact with gun people) is that is truly "us" and "them"... and frankly I like "them" better.
I don't like that my mother all of the sudden thinks I have become a "gun nut". I don't want to show up for Thanksgiving dinner wearing clothes that are obviously out of character for me and have my mom suddenly giving me the third degree about whether I am carrying. I absolutely cannot tolerate this kind of questioning in one of my jobs. It's not just some kind of personal preference thing. Not everybody thinks it's normal to carry a gun every day. I don't care to get into that debate with people. I don't want anyone to notice anything different about me, and I don't want to actually have to be any different just in order to be prepared.
You suggest I some people don't think it's "worth the bother". You know, it's a much bigger bother to those people. It's a huge bother to me to find a way to carry a useful weapon without advertising to thousands of people that something is different. This is not just small deal. I have two very important, apparently incompatible needs. It doesn't help when, rather than give useful advice, knowledgeable persons dismiss these people as lacking commitment to the safety of themselves or their family simply because they have other things in their life that have to work together and not just CCW.
So like I say, I'll plan to sometimes carrying with my Smartcarry and saving some gig money for a more concealable gun.
Makes me wonder if there isn't a market for products to work with someone with my restrictions on wardrobe who want to CCW.