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well, I guess it depends on the style of dress you're wearing, and the position you take.

most of the dresses I wear are loose, long sundresses, since they are loose I can actually go in at the neckline or the sleeve and draw. I also figure if I have to draw my weapon I will probably want to take cover and that will mean crouching down so my skirt will hide anything shown, however, if I have to draw my weapon....I'm not really worried what gets shown I'm more concerned about what gets stopped, and if seeing my nearly 50 year old legs stops him before he sees my gun....well, so much the better

once she gets a smaller gun, she can get a smaller holster, she doesn't have have to have even wear a belt if gets a holster like mine (from Kusiak) or the Betty? I think.

first, to answer your specific question, the flashbang holster is quite comfortable for me. I truly didn't think it would be, but I can find myself forgetting about it.

now, for your "real" question. I'm going to sound incredibly sexist, but I'm a lady so that's ok. Some people, esp women, simply won't carry. Many women simply aren't made for it. I know my sister will never, ever carry. She seldom listens to the news. She lets her husband do it. She figures if there is anything important going on, she'll hear about it through him, social media, ftf, etc, then she'll research it if it seems important to see what she needs to know about it. She likes to live in her own little world. And in that world, bad guys attack some one else, and if they do attack her, well she knows she could/would never pull the trigger. I've tried to talk to her about protecting others not just herself, but it simply isn't happening.
maybe she isn't carrying because she knows herself?
Many women are getting their CHL's because their husbands are pushing them to do it, is that why she got hers? or did she really want it? if she thinks she really wanted it, contact a shop, find out when a woman will be working behind the counter, then take her shopping or errand running during that time, with a 'quick stop by the gun store' try to get her to talk with the girl, it might help if she sees that there are women out here with guns, maybe she feels alone?

I finally put my loaded LCP in the flashbang, it stayed put YAY but I will say, I can't imagine carrying anything even an ounce heavier

my empty LCP keeps popping out, I'm thinking about putting practice caps (or whatever you call them) and see what that might do with it, basically I'm hoping the problem is the lack of weight.