In fact, my plan is to just simply carry and see if she notices. So far I have carried in the house and she has not noticed once. I plan on keeping it that way.
This is how I started. I used this to guage printing with different materials and how I acted myself, knowing I was carrying. After a few weeks I showed her I had it on. I explained in more (as best I could) detail the 'rules' of carry and use. Now she 'checks' for printing if I ask
, but just assumes I have a gun and feels safer for it. I feel inclined to mention that I was quick to explain why I didn't tell her up-front I was carrying and knew it would not be an issue. Only you know how your wife will react if she finds out before you say something ;-