Blindref757 wrote:hangfour wrote:Get braced, it may be new wife time?
Yes ... I know that this is insensitive but: "Who is head of this house when it comes to very serious matters like the lives of the family".
There I said it.
The Scripture states that I'm to be the Spiritual head of my household.
If you want to go technical on Luke 22 and say..."It's in the Bible, so it's spiritual and I'm in charge", you can win the argument and lose the war. If we think of the husband/wife relationship in parallel context to the Christ/church relationship as the scriptures teach, Christ didn't divorce the church over a disagreement...he educated...peacefully! My wife is my equal as it relates to making decisions about our daily lives together. I WANT to carry my gun out of love for my family. I don't NEED to carry a gun to church. I'm not ALLOWED to carry a gun at work. My daily happiness isn't dependent on having a gun on my hip. I draw much more happiness out of having a partner through this journey. f it takes her some time to get her head around that, it will be fine. If we never agree, I'm certain that we can work a compromise. She will have a better understanding of my motive this week. She will have the opportunity to get out and handle a weapon this month, and we will begin to have more conversations about "what-if" situations.
I appreciate the responses...some have made me think really deeply about the situation...and others have just made me laugh. But both were necessary for me to begin to deal with the situation!
You are truly a wise man. My guess is that your wife is lucky to have you as a husband. You recognize what it takes to make a happy marriage, starting with a respectful relationship with your
partner (as you did state).
As others have stated, it may very well just be a case of your wife adjusting to the idea. The longer you carry, the more likely she is to be less concerned about the idea of carrying in church.
It's funny - my husband and I both have our CHLs. Sometimes, though, one of us doesn't feel like carrying (ill, tired, etc). Then is when we will ask the other "Are you carrying? Yes? Good. I'm not up to it right now." It's so nice to be able to share the responsibility. And to be honest, I have a gun that tends to live in my purse. Since I rarely go anywhere without my purse (sometimes from habit, sometimes because that's how I wish to carry my firearm), I will often end up being the one carrying the protection for us.
