Without knowing all the details, it's hard for us to give you an accurate opinion; however, I understand your desire not to go into detail. I have relatives that have made me want to dig a hole and crawl in it, and I don't care to air it on the 'net.mr.72 wrote:The situation is not quite so simple as I've made it out to be, and trying to read between the lines is not going to help illuminate it. I am not going to go into greater detail on an internet forum!
Trust me every possible effort has been made to avoid such a confrontation. There is only so much you can do in advance.
I'm sensing from your post that self-control isn't your brother's forte. Many people have this problem. I would have a serious heart-to-heart with my brother if I were you. You need to let him know that you will do what you can for him if he's attacked and tries to flee (if this is indeed the case), but that you will not stand by with a water hose if he chooses to stir an antpile.
JM2C.