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Divided Attention wrote:If I; being one of the same gender as your wife, could express an opinion.

Have you asked her? What are her reservations for sure? Males and Females are wired so differently, please don't try to second guess her discomfort.

If her discomfort is around her or your use or proficiency, what about a defense outside the home course for the both of you? What about talking through some scenarios with her?

I guess the biggest point I am trying to get out is Ask some questions and listen, really listen to the answers. Sometimes us gals just need to vent. We don't necessarily want you to fix it for us, just listen and be a sounding board and our partner in this amazing life we share with you guys.

JMPHO

Hey I heard this before once when I was listening

So maybe it's true ... thanks for the reminder

I'll still never understand "shopping" trying on dresses for 5 hours, not buying anything, and enjoying it ....

If you were impressed with your instructor ... you might have her take the CHL class if she hasn't ... it doesn't mean she has to carry any more than being a licensed driver requires you to buy a car ... but it's an educational class so she might understand you better, if that's something she might like to do .... I know I'll never understand wimmin, but they like to try to figure us out and get close and ............ talk..
So, you'll have more y'all can .......... talk ...... about.

Anyway, that's a few of my ideas, worth what you paid for them ... I'm single so ......... you might want other's advice too

in Arizona some derogatory comments about hand guns.

Point out to her that the guy who held down the shooter was armed, with a hand gun .... handguns, cars. hammers, knives, fire extinguishers are inert, inanimate objects incapable of possessing a "good" or bad" characteristic.

idea of you carrying:

two types of people exist:

some play possum

(Colin at Virgina tech, and some deceased at V T)

( Doctor in Arizona)

others rise to the occasion to provide resistance attempting to an attacker
(Dr Suzanna Hupp's dad, unarmed and deceased)
(ONLY one guy at Virgina tech, unarmed and deceased)

Would she rather have you unarmed and deceased? or ready to protect yourself and family?

Have her watch the series "What would you do" you can also see it online .. it "notices" not many willing to help, commends those who do.

cars kill more people
cars are dangerous
cars are more dangerous if used irresponsibly or maliciously (woman trying to run her cheating husband over etc)

hammers and knives kill less people than cars
hammers and knives are dangerous
hammers and knives are more dangerous if used irresponsibly or maliciously

Fire extinguishers can be dangerous if hit with one (used irresponsibly or maliciously )
Fire extinguishers are seldom used
People hope they never need a Fire extinguisher
It's better to have one if and/or when one is needed, than not have one

guns kill less people than cars too
guns are dangerous
guns are more dangerous if used irresponsibly or maliciously
People hope they never need a gun
It's better to have one if and/or when one is needed, than not have one

all have valid uses as tools, handguns, fire extinguishers, cars. hammers, knives are inert, inanimate objects incapable of possessing a "good" or bad" or "evil" characteristic.... they can be or are dangerous, moreso if used wrong, none are evil, sometimes any of the above could be used for an evil purpose by an evil person, it's not the tool's fault, and when properly used by a good responsible person, jobs are best performed if you have the right tool for the job,