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by randomoutburst
Fri Oct 09, 2009 1:13 pm
Forum: New to CHL?
Topic: Visiting friends' homes
Replies: 57
Views: 7785

Re: Visiting friends' homes

seamusTX wrote: The younger generation even tolerates mixed-race grandkids.
I just married a great guy who is 1/2 Filipino and 1/2 caucasian...and both my parents and grandparents about lost it. He's so whitewashed it's ridiculous (how often do you see a large asian wearing cowboy boots, a duster, and packing heat?), but they're only concerned with his eyes and skin. :roll: And oh, what will the grandchildren look like?? :lol:
Some of the family is coming around, but it sure is taking a lot of work. I can't say how much it's affected relationships since all this happened at the same time as my parent's divorce which strained everything enough as it is. I can say, however, that family connections are extremely important and when they are severed it can be extremely painful. I suggest having your daughter speak to her fiance about it because I don't know how much a father-in-law can influence a hard-headed young man...but a woman has a certain sway over her significant other. :thumbs2: If he refuses to budge, I wish you the best in persuading him otherwise but would personally begrudgingly honor his wishes if you hope to see your daughter more often than Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Directed at Hammer, I understand the idea of honoring the law and wishes of others in regards to carrying because as a CHL holder, we have a higher level of responsibility to be upstanding citizens...but as an old friend once said, "I'd rather be judged by twelve than carried by six." I cannot imagine a situation as of now where I would carry even if it's posted as illegal, but I know that if my gut told me I should keep my firearm on me, and I had no other option but to proceed, I wouldn't leave my gun behind.
by randomoutburst
Mon Oct 05, 2009 12:32 am
Forum: New to CHL?
Topic: Visiting friends' homes
Replies: 57
Views: 7785

Re: Visiting friends' homes

I think carrying is your own business and I would adopt a "don't ask, don't tell" policy myself.
Now would be a good opportunity to find out how your friends feel about guns. If you don't feel comfortable carrying in a friend's home when they aren't comfortable with guns, ask them if they would rather you leave it in your car. If you gather that they support gun rights, you should probably still ask but are less likely to be told your gun isn't welcome.
Of course, in the case that your friends don't view guns the same way you do, it would be a great opportunity to open up a discussion on why you carry and why you feel it keeps you safe.

I know I said I would carry in friends' homes without asking but if you aren't as comfortable with that as I am, I would ask your friends if only to ease your own discomfort.

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