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by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 1:02 pm
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mojo84 wrote:jrma, Isn't that like a surgeon telling fat jokes while doing a liposuction procedure? :biggrinjester:
The wife could tell some stories. After she retires she should write a book.
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 12:41 pm
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Since your wife is a surgeon she might enjoy this.
My wife worked with a surgeon who wanted all the GSWs that came into the hospital. Whenever they got word one was coming, they had to find a specific metal bowl so that the surgeon could hear the sound of the bullet hitting the metal bowl after he removed it. He got such a kick out of hearing that sound.
He had one kid that he had pulled bullets out of 3 different times. He would get aggravated because they were always small caliber bullets and he liked the sound of something a little larger hitting the metal bowl. :mrgreen:
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 12:30 pm
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Oldgringo wrote:Rather than a ring, get her an engagement gun?
Usually a discussion that involves both marriage and guns does not turn out well for the groom. Given that she has no guns and tolerates his hobbies, I going to bet this would not be the exception.
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 12:14 pm
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TheCytochromeC wrote:she'll be an independently operating surgeon by then
Did I say something about kids? Forget I ever said that. Keep a picture of her next to your side of the bed. You'll need it. :mrgreen:
(My wife runs an OR. She is constantly trying to convince surgeons to go home and spend time with their families. Her efforts are always futile.)
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 11:32 am
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TheCytochromeC wrote:
Cedar Park Dad wrote:How old are you?
I'm 17, we've been dating since middle school so that really shows commitment you know.

I'm joking, I'm 25.
I was 24, my wife was 27. I asked her to marry me two weeks after our first date. :shock:
Did I fail to mention that I had a crush on her when I was 10? She wasn't the girl next door, but you could stand in my driveway and see her driveway. :mrgreen:
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 11:20 am
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TheCytochromeC wrote:
jmra wrote:About marriage or the ring?
The ring in particular. Please, I don't want to hear about other peoples marriages, we get that enough on the daily :lol:
Guess we blew that already. :mrgreen:
I picked out a setting I knew my wife would like and took it to a diamond broker. I told him what I wanted. He made inquiries and let me know what was available. As a result, the ring immediately appraised (a requirement by my insurance agent) for 3 times what I paid for it. Be careful with jewelry stores, most mark up their inventory 300-400% over cost.
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 11:04 am
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SQLGeek wrote:FIrst of all, congrats to you on a long relationship already. My wife and I dated for several years through high school and college and I think in many respects that has made our marriage easier (but still not easy!).

As far as the ring, I don't know either of you but my suggestion would be to disregard the typical advice you get such as "budget 2-3 months salary". That's a marketing ploy from the diamond industry (same thing as diamonds are truly rare). If you're not stuck on recent tradition, it may not even have to be a diamond if neither of you are the type that cares about that. My wife wanted a diamond ring so that's what I got for her after quite a bit of shopping around.

What I ended up doing was picking out a certified diamond that looked good and was a decent size but not extravagant and then had it placed in a setting I knew she would like. It wasn't very expensive or large but the clarity of the diamond made up for the size.

That said, once you're engaged, I highly recommend pre-marital counseling even if you're not religious. A good, honest assessment of your relationship with a professional will at least give you both a good footing for starting off your marriage right.

Good luck to you!
Great advice.
If you can't afford the ring, don't buy it. But don't go cheap and then expect to spend thousands on "toys".
Don't go to bed angry (especially in your first years of marriage). My wife and I had some very late night discussions in the kitchen, but the bedroom was a sanctuary of peace and tranquility. Worked very well for us.
Don't be in a hurry to have kids. My wife and I were married for 10 years before starting a family. It allowed us to do things for our kids financially that we would have been unable to do otherwise.
by jmra
Fri Jan 03, 2014 10:56 am
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About marriage or the ring?

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