And that's the key right there. A simple, "I'm going downstairs for a while, ok?" from you to him, especially if you wait for an acknowledgement from him, might have clued him in that it was you coming back upstairs. Now, if he was so wrapped up in the movie that he didn't notice the child climbing into bed with him, well.... ain't got a cure for that except maybe don't read or watch movies in bed?mamabearCali wrote:... just need to find a way to communicate a bit better I guess.
The rule in our household has been to make just enough noise coming into the house that someone in the back, or asleep, will know who it is, without disturbing the neighbors. "Honey, I'm home!" or "Hey, Mom, it's me!" has kept me from reaching for my "friend" more than once. There was one time I was back in the den, and heard someone use a key to quietly come in the front door. That person made no other noise, and I unholstered my pistol and waited. When my son poked his head around the corner and saw the pistol at low ready, he grinned and said "good for you!" And I chewed him out for being too quiet.