I realized we could spend more time on scenarios when my wife called me while I was on a business trip in Chicago. I forget exactly what it was. . .either she heard something go bump in the night or got home and the front door was wide open. Regardless, it wasn't the "he's pointing a gun at me" moment (which thankfully never happened). . . her tendency is to call me during the, "does this sound serious enough to call the police?" moment.
She has a lot more confidence in making that decision now.
For reference, here is the 911 tape from Georgia (notice you're hearing the husband, who is at work):
http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/01 ... ruder?lite
Story:
http://myfox8.com/2013/01/10/armed-geor ... ive-times/
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- Fri Apr 19, 2013 5:33 pm
- Forum: Never Again!!
- Topic: Wives during crisis: call the police or the husband?
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- Fri Apr 19, 2013 4:29 pm
- Forum: Never Again!!
- Topic: Wives during crisis: call the police or the husband?
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Wives during crisis: call the police or the husband?
I'm going to brush with broad strokes for this topic as I feel I've detected a trend that is worthy of discussion.
I've seen more than a handful of situations (911 calls, news stories, etc.) where a woman was put in a defensive position and called her husband instead of the police. (Even when she had/used her own firearm.)
The situation in Georgia around the time or Newtown is a classic example: the lady was hiding in her house as a BG broke in. She called her husband. He called 911 and was essentially a go-between throughout the ordeal. (She fired six rounds at the BG, he was hit five times and left.)
The typical order of priorities we discuss is usually something like this:
- Always be on alert
- Avoid confrontation if possible (hunker down)
- Engage if required
- Retreat and become as secure as possible if threat remains (hunker down)
- Be the first to call 911 if possible. . . at an earlier step if prudent
Most of the ladies hanging around this forum are informed and ready to protect themselves. Still, I wonder if some still have a natural instinct to call their husband first. That internal decision making process would be interesting to hear about.
For the guys: what about your wife? Would she call you or the police? Have you talked about it? You could be surprised by her answer if you haven't.
Obviously what-ifs and specifics could be infinite, so I'm trying to narrow this to those instances we've seen where I feel it's clearly time to call 911, when if I was there, I'd be calling 911. In some of those instances, we've seen wives calls the husband.
I have to admit, even though my wife is a CHLer and knows when it's time to call the police - under stress, she's still very likely to call me first. It's just how she's wired, and it'll take training and practice to rewire that instinct.
I've seen more than a handful of situations (911 calls, news stories, etc.) where a woman was put in a defensive position and called her husband instead of the police. (Even when she had/used her own firearm.)
The situation in Georgia around the time or Newtown is a classic example: the lady was hiding in her house as a BG broke in. She called her husband. He called 911 and was essentially a go-between throughout the ordeal. (She fired six rounds at the BG, he was hit five times and left.)
The typical order of priorities we discuss is usually something like this:
- Always be on alert
- Avoid confrontation if possible (hunker down)
- Engage if required
- Retreat and become as secure as possible if threat remains (hunker down)
- Be the first to call 911 if possible. . . at an earlier step if prudent
Most of the ladies hanging around this forum are informed and ready to protect themselves. Still, I wonder if some still have a natural instinct to call their husband first. That internal decision making process would be interesting to hear about.
For the guys: what about your wife? Would she call you or the police? Have you talked about it? You could be surprised by her answer if you haven't.
Obviously what-ifs and specifics could be infinite, so I'm trying to narrow this to those instances we've seen where I feel it's clearly time to call 911, when if I was there, I'd be calling 911. In some of those instances, we've seen wives calls the husband.
I have to admit, even though my wife is a CHLer and knows when it's time to call the police - under stress, she's still very likely to call me first. It's just how she's wired, and it'll take training and practice to rewire that instinct.