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KC5AV wrote:

jbirds1210 wrote: Wild At Heart by John Eldredge.
Jason

Excellent book!

+1 to that. One of the best I have read!

dewayneward wrote: I remember in high school, if you wore an earring in your left ear, you were "cool", BUT if you wore one in your right ear you were a homosexual.

That's when I was in middle school.

I never have (and never will) get an earring....or a tattoo for that matter. There are a number of reasons, but here are a few (in no particular order):

Those are all perfectly good reasons. Likewise, except for some extremely rare circumstances, I personally can't think of any good reasons that you should get an earring or a tattoo. And to be quite honest, I don't wear earrings now and if I had the decision to make as an adult, I would not have seen any point in doing it either. I did this when I was about 12 or 13 years old, and you know, sometimes adolescent kids do things that don't make a lot of sense looking back.

The point you make about not being able to get a job is a very good point. People do judge you for how you look, and it goes in all different directions. From an employer's perspective, they may also be hedging against their customers' perception as well. In regular relationships, though, these judgments we make based on our prejudices or appearances have very limited utility.

However, our actions in the here and now are much more likely to be indicators of our character.

The problem here is that it breeds bitterness and division. The more people reject and judge those who look different, the more rage is fueled amongst those people against the "establishment" and they drift further away from what you might find "normal". Sometimes people do things just to test those around them, and it's destructive on relationships in both ways. Didn't anyone here see "American Beauty"? In fact, the church has had a major problem with this over the years, and it's a classic parent-child conflict. One of the best ways to undermine your influence over other people is to engage prejudices against them because of their appearance, or enforce conformity over meaningless things.

I don't have the time or energy in my life to commit to dealing with narrow-minded bigots. This forum has an ignore-list, and I use it.

Wearing earrings has nothing at all to do with sexuality.

I have both ears pierced, two in the left, one in the right, but I haven't actually worn an earring in them in about 15 years. This has been "in vogue" for much longer than 20 years for certain groups of people (such as musicians). I don't care how much of a "real man" you think you are, if you wear Dockers and a pressed button-down shirt, clean shaven, hair trimmed and tidy, etc. then you may fit in with realtors, bank tellers and sales reps but you are going to look like a dang fool if you are playing in a rock band.

Most professions have a standard for proper attire and appearance, and it's not universally the same for every one of them.