Bravo!! Couldn't say it any better. My wife and her family had the "TV perception" too. Been almost a year of marriage now and she goes to the range on her own and even cleans the guns just for fun. She even went to her first gun show this month. She even keeps talking about going duck hunting this year, which means I get a new shotgun (*happy dance*). Christmas should be fun this year...Bando800 wrote:LOL. It always cracks me up when I see a girlfriend/wife post. You guys are vicious when someone threatens the pack. There is another option to leaving her. Tell her it is your right and your going to do it no matter what. It is that important to you (and I hope it is). That's it. You don't have to change your life by leaving her because you disagree on something. You don't have to like each others decisions. Your with her because you love her. People argue from ignorance most of the time. Teach her as much about guns as you can. If she won't listen she's probably scared of them. I know and love plenty of anti-gun people. They are allowed to dislike guns just as much as I am allowed to covet them. That doesn't make them evil or even irrational. They just don't have enough information to make an informed decision. The more girlfriend/wife posts I read, the luckier I feel about my girlfriends view of guns. When we met she wouldn't go near my guns. She didn't understand how they worked. She had a "TV" perception of them. She could not understand why I would want to carry one. They kill people! Over time I taught her how to hold, shoot, and load a firearm. They are no longer scary to her. She understands that they are just objects. When we are in a bad neighborhood, sometimes she asks if I am packing. NOW it is a source of comfort to her.
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- Sun May 11, 2008 1:42 pm
- Forum: New to CHL?
- Topic: Girlfriend
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Re: Girlfriend
- Wed Apr 16, 2008 11:45 pm
- Forum: New to CHL?
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Re: Girlfriend
My wife grew up in a "we don't own guns" house. Not that they were opposed to them in general, but they just didn't want them around. Consequently, my wife had zero experience with them when we started dating. I, on the other hand, grew up in a hunting family, so we had our stuff on display in the family room. It was a bit of a shock for her, but I didn't try to force the issue. I knew eventually she would ask why I carried, and my answer would be "to keep the good guys on even ground." The trick is not to force the issue. Some people grow up and get rooted in family ideals and traditions, not even questioning them. It takes a whole lot of arguing to change someone's mind, but only one well-worded answer to an honest question.
She's getting involved a lot more now, thanks to just taking it at her pace.
She's getting involved a lot more now, thanks to just taking it at her pace.