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03Lightningrocks wrote:The reality is, the level of guilt one feels over carrying a handgun is directly proportional to how one responds when answering the question posed in this thread.

I feel zero guilt about carrying. I feel zero "special citizen" class because I am carrying. I don't feel any different about carrying a handgun on my person than I would a money clip. This renders me incapable of feeling like I am somehow "disrespecting" a person when I am carrying my handgun.

Exactly. Guilt is not part of it at all, which is one reason why I don't have those kinds of relationships to begin with.

mojo84 wrote:

Jihans wrote:

mojo84 wrote:I am very respectful of other's beliefs and feelings. I also follow the what they don't know can't hurt them. Well, unless it's justified.

Is that like It's only against the rules if the ref sees it?

If it is only their beliefs and feelings like I said, I would carry on and keep it to myself. If they asked me not to to carry in their homes, I would respect that and make my decisions accordingly. I'll leave it up to you to determine if it fits your sports analogy.

And that is exactly what it takes for us to be respectful of their feelings, and them to be respectful of ours. In order for me to be respectful of a host's wishes, they need to communicate those wishes to me. Otherwise I have no way in the world to know what they are. It's only logical.

So, unless a host communicates his or her wishes to me, I will act on my wishes, which is to go ahead and carry. If a host communicates that they would prefer I did not, then at least I have the option of considering whether or not to attend......and I still might attend, it would just depend on who the person was, and how close I am to them. My mom would freak out of she thought I was carrying a gun, but my brothers would not. My son's inlaws are all trying to get their CHLs so that is a non issue. I don't have any other family in Texas, and my mother and brothers are all in California, the land of hyperventilation. I don't have any friends here who are not gun friendly, so in the end, this is a moot point for me.

But as mojo84 said, unless the rules are communicated, there is no rule. This is Texas. A LOT of people carry guns here. If it is a host's concern that people would carry a gun in their home, then this being Texas, the responsible thing to do is to communicate that concern. If the host doesn't communicate the concern, then how on earth can someone be held responsible for violating that concern?

I guess I live in an area where it just wouldn't even occur to anyone to include "no guns" in their invitation. And it's not even that they are pro or con CHL, or pro or con the RKBA. It's just that it's not on their radar. I'm pretty sure that the woman down the street who invited us to her neighborhood Christmas open house knows at some level that I carry. I know that her husband knows because he asks me for gun advice from time to time, and CHL has come up in that conversation. At that party, I saw two guys relatively new to the neighborhood whom I met for the first time, both of whom I think probably carry (manner of dress, movement, etc.), one of whom I am fairly certain was carrying at that moment. But I never got into that conversation with them.

That said, I live in a fairly conservative and nice neighborhood, in a fairly conservative town.

I carried to the Christmas open house at my neighbor's house on Saturday. No big deal.