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No Bama Man wrote:

Purplehood wrote:I would just tell him that if he wants to visit, it would have to be at my place as I am not coming over unarmed.

Purplehood,
I said that but it will be impossible to never go over there, my daughter does live there and in the future grandchildren may be in the picture as well. I'm kind of over a barrel on this because he has my daughter.

But any man who would force a break in the relationship between a father and his daughter is no kind of man - unless there is something really unhealthy and abusive involved between father and daughter. That is patently not the case in your situation. It really boils down to this: how wise is your daughter? She may eventually come to see that her fiance (hopefully future husband) is being a putz and put her foot down. After all, she was OK with your being armed when she lived in your home, wasn't she?

When is the wedding?

If you go back and look at some of my very first posts on this board, you'll see that I had a very different take on it than I do now. Back then, while I was still waiting for my plastic to come, I was dead set against the idea of someone unknown to me carrying into my home, and I didn't care whether or not they had their CHL. I had a small number of close friends with whom I would have been comfortable with it, but that comfort did not extend to people I did not know well and consider a good friend.

After my plastic arrived and I had been carrying for a couple of weeks and was getting used to it, I had a couple of opportunities to test my beliefs when carrying into my friends' homes. I decided that I had been a schmuck earlier. Of course I was no threat to the home owner. Taken another way, I actually added to their home's security - even though they might not have realized it at the time. Since then, a year and a half has gone by, and a number of our friends now know that both my wife and I have permits and carry guns. Some are intrigued and want to know more, some are amused and make jokes about feeling safer when my wife and I are around, and some seem to have no opinion one way or the other. But I have yet to have a friend ask me to leave my weapon in the car... ...so I don't.

If I am ever asked to disarm, I'll cross that bridge when I get to it, but I expect I will honor their request. Losing a friendship over it just isn't worth it. That said, I would try to win them over with reason - including the one that points out that they did not consider me a threat before they knew about the gun, so how does the gun change that?