As you know there are several pastors on the board here. I would suggest seeing if they have any experience in this matter. Counseling during a divorce can be a real sticky issue. I have seen a couple of problems in the past where pastor's were drug into a nasty situation through no fault of their own and it ended up hurting their careers and the individuals involved.
As far as her being able to protect herself, that is tough. Without the prior experience or gun ownership, it might not be a good idea to try to introduce that when her life is at the stage it is now. Tough call on that without knowing the individuals and the situation myself. I do know many police departments will do 'keep the peace' escorts when estranged individuals have to meet to exchange items or other property.
Good luck on the issue. Divorces are a nasty situation and if one of the individuals in semi-unstable, then they can escalate quickly if they are pushed and fly into a fit of rage. As a LEO, domestic violence calls were one of the most dangerous I got involved in as you were dealing with unknown parties and unknown levels of anger with the potential to get caught right in the middle of a full out fight or attempt to severely injure or kill the other. I hated going on those calls.
