and you'll be fine. My wife was similar, asking me why I was paranoid, we live in a small town where the biggest crime was DWI, etc. I just kept carrying, showing her the news stories that would come up every now and then that showed crimes happening in "good" neighborhoods, two local drug busts in Sealy 
.......etc. I also go to the range often, and tell her about the good people on this forum and their credentials (lawyers, LEOs, etc). One day I took her to the range and there was an IDPA meet. She was pleased to see that they were "normal people"
. I guess she was expecting militant types, I don't know, but she was glad to see that they were people that she could be in line behind at a department store and never think they'd be "gun people". One difference is that I've never been a hothead, so vigilantism wasn't on her list of concerns.
It's been a slow process, but its progress. Twice now she's expressed her wish that I was carrying when I couldn't carry (Rodeo and 6th street in Austin).
She's still against ARs though
