treadlightly wrote:
Then, the kicker. He said, with a hint of bitterness, "We just feel safer with those signs in place."
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But this got to me. He feels safer in his place of business if he takes an active step to disarm me. He perceives me as a threat. I'm flummoxed.
Wow, this really left me feeling the same. It would be so easy to begin to take it personally, but of course it has nothing to do with that - or you, or me, or probably the overwhelming vast majority of gun owners. I guess that I would want to ask if he felt safer around me because I didn't have a gun. If yes, I'd certainly want to know what that was based upon other than some vague and irrational fear. If he said no, that it had nothing to do with me personally, I'd then ask him how he feels knowing that I do not feel safe coming into his bank. I'd also want him to imagine what he would feel like if he was witness to my being killed by a bank robber will I his "feel safer" bank. And again if he said nothing personal, and the signs weren't going to come down....I wonder what he'd then say if I asked him for his permission to carry past the sign.
I guess that I'm worn out from trying to make sense of irrational fears, from feeling like we need to defend the statistics that fall in our favor, and so on.