You may want to skip ahead to chapter 8. It addresses overly persistent people.texasgirl wrote:Thank you everyone for your input I know I can't just ignore this because something is telling me I should be concerned. TexasCajun that book is actually what prompted me to take this more seriously. Not that I was ignoring it but just that maybe I need to take additional steps. I just started the book a few day ago(not done yet) but it just reinforced that I need to take my concern seriously. I need to discuss this in more length with my husband. The day I saw the creepy guy at the convenience store and mentioned to my husband I only told him "Hey see that guy over there he knows dad and whenever he sees me he is always overly friendly he creeps me out." I didn't go into all the detail about it that I did with my mom and my sister and I really should have. I know I need to get a name for him but I was concerned that by asking he might see that as interest on my part.
Mom didn't know much about him just a last name and said he looked familiar. My dad is working out of town so I haven't had the opportunity to speak with him about it. I already did a check on the sex offender registry I didn't have a name but searched by our zip code (our town only has one) and I looked through all the photos and did not find him.
Charles thank you for the prayers that is much appreciated. I have had some training in self defense but that was mostly for situations where I am unarmed which I have been when I've run in to him. I can't carry at work so aside from awareness and my pocket knife while out for running lunch errands that is all I have. When I run I carry a small knife and sometimes my NAA 22mag.
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- Fri Sep 25, 2015 10:48 am
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- Fri Sep 25, 2015 6:53 am
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I've just finished reading The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker. He starts off with how our desire to not be embarrassed or to cause embarrassment leads us to ignore our instincts. There is something about this guy that has set off your alarm. Do not ignore it. DeBecker also goes into detail about how stalkers/predators work. This repeated "chance encounter" is one of the tactics that stalkers use to pacify their victims. It builds a familiarity and a lowering of the guard that they will later exploit. Get the guy's name and then immediately tell him in no uncertain terms that he is to leave you alone. If he tries to make contact after that point, insist again that you don't want anything to do with him and seek advice from your local PD. Whatever you do, don't waver in your resolution for no further contact. Doing so will only tell him that he needs x number of no's in order to get a yes.