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We have some commonality.

Addicts often relapse and they are excellent liars, deceivers and manipulators; and as you have experienced, we straight guys are merely sheep for the shearing. We are often clueless until after the fact. Our biggest weakness is that we want to believe; we want to help.

I wouldnt let this person get me into a situation that I couldnt control all the dynamics. For a while I would meet her at our destination (restaurant or movie, etc.) & if possible with a group of friends, but she's not gonna get in my car nor my residence. This person may be sincere in contacting you and I hope that is the case, but be vigilant, addicts are also users and some view friendship as merely a commodity.

Remember, you have lived without seeing her for 3 years & you didnt suffer a great loss, so there's no big hurry. Take things slow, time is on your side.

Good luck to you and your friend.