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mamabearCali wrote:. Try not to say stupid stuff.

But this is really difficult for us, it sounds good coming out of our mouth. Its only when we see the look on her face that we realize oh crud! what did I just say!?

misterholt wrote:Any and all helpful pointers, tips, and advice would be appreciated. Anything from how to deal with dirty diapers, how to handle the wife when she gets "pregnant" I mean any and ALL advice would be helpful.

Its great! My boy is 7 months old and its been a roller coaster. You have to be prepared for irrational conversations and complaints. Keep it to yourself if you are "right." Do you guys have a plan for birthing? Hospital, natural, birthing center, home birth, mid wife? We did the Bradley Method Classes which is where the husband is like a "coach" partner and focuses on relaxation and pain management rather than breathing like lamaz method.
I'm going to say this, because it was on my mind when we found out, but just because she's pregnant and even late into the pregnancy, you don't have to stop "practicing" at making babies. Its totally safe to do it, and sometimes the libido is effected in a positive manner by those hormones (and sometimes in a negative).

She may get this advice, but I will share it because it was such a help to my wife. For after the birth stock up on extra thick feminine pads, pour some water on each one, stack them up, pop them in the freezer, buy some tucks pads too. Then when she gets home "that area" will be in pain, so pull a frozen pad out, line the pad with tucks, and it apparently helps a TON with the pain (its like an icepack specially designed for that area, and because they are pads they are designed to soak up liquid which will also be leaking after the birth...).

Change diapers as often as possible. If she is breastfeeding that means she will be changing twice as many or more as you are so every one you volunteer to do will be to your credit.

Diaper genie has been working like a champ for us. For on the go changes they actually make little scented baggies that look like dog poop pickup bags to put the diaper in, tie it off, and throw it away. If you are on the go and the diaper gets put into the trunk try very hard to remember its there... I've forgotten a couple times.

Also, we did a natural birthing, at a birthing center, with midwife, been breastfeeding, and used the Bradley method. So if you have questions about any of that send me a PM I can share our experience with it.