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Further, My wife has a Taurus snub. It works great and is heavier than the new lighter alloys that are availably. Due to the weight, it's perceived recoil seems to be less. However, the less than stellar trigger makes it a gun for up close personal work. It's definitely not a target gun.

Based on the OP, I would recommend the OP try a snub nosed 38 with a bobbed or concealed hammer. Otherwise, a 22 is better than nothing. I would encourage OP practice as much as possible with whatever she ends up with to get as comfortable as possible with whatever age chooses.