1.) There may be some underlying relationship issues that your wife has unmet and doesn't know how to tell you. But she does know how to get mad about your gun at her "safe place"...her church. In order to repair your relationship I would suggest you try something. For the next 40 days, on Sunday leave your gun at home, without her asking. Don't make a big deal of it, just leave it. She is more important to you than the gun, I promise. The Bible says "he who finds a wife finds a good thing". You should also go buy the book "The Love Dare". Keep this a secret and every day for the next 40 days, do what the book suggests. This, I can almost promise, help you out in the relationship part. Then at the end of the 40 days, at the end of the Love Dare, revisit this issue. Go on the number 2.
2.) Your wife doesn't understand that there have been SO many church shootings and what God says about protecting yourself and your family. Give her this link to my blog http://thattexaslady.blogspot.com/2011/ ... carry.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false; written by a lady for a lady. You can also see if she would like to attend a class at http://www.womenssafetyacademytexas.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false; if you are anywhere near one. Take her to the links of all the church shootings so she can see what has happened. Talk with her, ask her what her fears are and try to truly understand how she feels. Let her know that you love her and that you carry to protect her, according to Jesus' command. Education and understanding are key.
3.) If, after all this, she still requests that you don't carry, consider honoring her wishes. You CHOSE to love her "above all others" including that gun. You made a covenant with her and God to honor and cherish her.
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1 Corinthians 13
1 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.