Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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How does your spouse feel about you carrying?

Spouse doesn't know I have a CHL and carry
3
2%
Spouse is upset that I carry and it creates tension
0
No votes
Spouse tolerates that I carry, but takes pot shots
8
4%
Spouse tolerates that I carry, but teases me
2
1%
Spouse is ambivalent to me carrying
17
9%
Spouse is secretly happy that I carry
16
9%
Spouse is openly happy that I carry
45
25%
Spouse encourages me to carry
12
7%
Spouse is adamant that I carry
9
5%
Spouse carries
69
38%
 
Total votes: 181

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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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My wife doesn't care
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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At first my wife did not like the idea of a gun even in the house but accepted it as she was not going to change my mind. Then she did not like the idea of my getting a CHL but accepted it. Then she didnt like the idea that I carried everywhere, including church but again accepted it. Then one day she and my daughter were alone at their shop (dog groomers) and a couple of "young men" came in and was walking around and trying to position themselves where they could see all of the back area (assuming to see if anyone else was there). She called me and fortunatly I was at my office (less than 3 minutes away). These "young men" were still there when I walked in but as soon as she said "honey can you stay here while I go get lunch" they decided to leave.

That night she asked what she needed to do to get her license. Her and my daughter both took the class and got them at the same time. She even put a sign up in the window that says "WE DON'T CALL 911, WE CALL 1911". Funny thing, she only lost 1 customer because of that sign.

Now for the kicker, their shop is directly across the street from the police station. A lot of their customers are LEO and all have said that they would get less response there because all officers are out on patrol. Of course they laugh after saying it though.
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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When we were dating, 20+ years ago, the first time she came to my house she saw the gun cabinet and said "I don't know if I can live in a house with guns in it.

I took her shooting on our honeymoon.

She aced her initial CHL written test, and has aced both written and shooting twice since.
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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My wife has her CHL but doesn't routinely carry, though she always has her gun in the car with her.

When I'm out of town she always has my gun on the nightstand next to the bed.

The only shot she's ever taken at me was once when she saw me clipping my extra mags on my belt and asked "Expecting a gunfight?" I replied "If I were expecting a gunfight, we wouldn't be going."

Since then she's actually patted my side a few times as we were heading out and said "Just checking."
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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Not a problem. Ecstatically divorced 26+ years. ;-)

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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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i carry except when at work. My wife (now that we have a revolver again), uses MPA for now.
She will get her chl before the end of the year for our trips north.
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My wife and I got our CHL at the same time - and my 5-year old daughter has her own pink Crickett .22 rifle. That means both of the ladies in my house are supportive.
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I carry when I/we are traveling, not so much at home. My wife is fine with that.
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Spouse always tries to steal my guns and complains I don't buy her more guns.
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My wife supports me in CCW. She supported me through the whole ordeal of getting my license too. She doesnt get the bigger shirt thing. :biggrinjester: She doesnt want to carry but she likes guns & has a .22 rifle & a ruger P95 .
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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The poll is missing the option that describes my situation:

Spouse doesn't care that I carry...

:lol: :txflag:
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ATDM wrote:The poll is missing the option that describes my situation:

Spouse doesn't care that I carry...

:lol: :txflag:
Try the one that says "ambivalent" :thumbs2:

My wife is happy that I carry and supports me in that.
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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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Reds45ACP wrote:
Try the one that says "ambivalent" :thumbs2:

My wife is happy that I carry and supports me in that.
I thought about that, because it's the closest thing, but that's not what the word "ambivalent" means. Ambivalent means being conflicted on a subject or having contradicting convictions or opinions on a specific subject or person, for example: my wife is happy that I carry, because I can defend my family and myself, but she is also very worried that someone might hurt me with my own gun.

That's not how my wife feels, but that's an example of ambivalent.

So, I just posted that my wife simply doesn't care one way or another. But I am working on convincing her to carry as well.

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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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ATDM wrote:
Reds45ACP wrote:
Try the one that says "ambivalent" :thumbs2:

My wife is happy that I carry and supports me in that.
I thought about that, because it's the closest thing, but that's not what the word "ambivalent" means. Ambivalent means being conflicted on a subject or having contradicting convictions or opinions on a specific subject or person, for example: my wife is happy that I carry, because I can defend my family and myself, but she is also very worried that someone might hurt me with my own gun. :txflag:
I confess that in creating the poll I butchered the English language. Thanks for educating me.

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Re: Poll: Spouse's Feelings On Carrying

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Not sure how to respond to the poll...

My wife will never carry.
I respect her wishes.
She laughs at me sometimes.
I don't care.
Deep down she likes it. (laughing at me and that I don't f around)
She supports everything I do related to guns, even though she doesn't care.
She knows I have a "gun" account.
She knows I spend more than I should on gun "stuff".
She supports my gun related business.
We talk daily on biz issues, planning, advertising, and She supports the biz.
I have an ammo jar next to the change jar on the dryer and she sorts.
I talked her into buying land to have a private range.
She loves the land, just doesn't want me to shoot anything on it.
She loves bacon wrapped dove with jalapenos.
She loves venison fried steak.
I love my wife.

I didn't see that on the poll. :)

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