I'll reply to what you ask. Please don't take my comments as a personal attack, but as a response for my thoughts, solicited by you. I hope this works out for you and you learn from it. You are most likely in for some lessons.
kanders wrote:
Did I overreact, or was my unholstering a reasonable reaction to a threat?
You overreacted. Go for your phone instead of your gun next time. Don't flick people off, mockingly return a thumbs up, or get annoyed so easily. In your possession is a device than can kill with the press of a button - it does not leave much room for ego or feelings. Furthermore, if you are such easily frightened by relatively mild provocation, perhaps you should not antagonize annoyed people.
kanders wrote:
Any idea if the HPD was using standard procedures for this kind of incident? I had no idea that I would be the subject of a homicide investigation.
I think they probably were trying to say an agg assault...not sure. Their response sounds extremely standard. If I was working the case, your gun for sure, and MAYBE you (for an interview), would've been coming with me. Your gun is evidence in a serious crime, and would be indexed at the police department.
kanders wrote:
Any idea what the odds are of me even getting a call from a detective? How likely is it that I could be prosecuted for anything, and if possible, what? Failure to conceal? Excessive use of force?
You're rolling the dice here. I would get a good lawyer, and maybe some one on one training from some of the active instructors on this forum. Attend some deadly force seminars, and maybe even anger management.
kanders wrote:
I know that there may have been a better way to deal with the situation, but it was sudden and I felt in imminent danger with nowhere (but also no duty) to retreat, so please don't flame me too much with "what you should've done" replies. I found the whole incident very disturbing; I'd never even been in a police car before and I'm 52. I was surprised at the reaction of Mr. Hothead and at the accusatory implication of a "homicide investigation" directed toward me, the CHL holder, when I thought I was merely taking precautions to defend myself.
I too find the incident very disturbing. "Mr. Hothead's" reaction does not strike me as surprising since he was in such a hurry that he cut you off, he's probably high strung and haughty. Maybe he was just running late and stressed...who knows. But based on what he demonstrated, and you provoking him, I don't find his behavior rare. The situation was less imminent than you would like to think. It took a well connected series of poor decisions and missed opportunities to deescalate or leave on your part to get where it did.
Like I said, I'll hope you learn, and get off with a slap on the wrist. As a member of this forum, you've show that you're interested in being a responsible CHL holder and learning - is impatience at the car wash really the hill you want to die on?
What if "Mr. Hothead" also had a CHL....what does this look like from his perspective.
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