The enemy within

[baldeagle]

when you have been married 50 years or more you will understand, maybe.

Some times people here make me wonder. We live in one of the suburbs of Dallas and do not lock our doors during the day, but do so at night. We also lock our doors when we are gone. I sure as heck don't carry a gun in our own house, but I can get to one within 20 seconds. If we go shopping at a Sam's I do not carry any weapon. Maybe your Sam's is in a bad place?

Jimmy

No, my Sams is not in a bad place. I'm trying to develop the habit of carrying every time that I can. As many have pointed out, bad things happen in "safe" places too, so you either have to guess right or carry every time you can.

[Hoosier Daddy]

There may be exceptions but most criminals don't allow their victims a time-out to go get a gun. It's usually come as you are.

[Hoi Polloi]

when you have been married 50 years or more you will understand, maybe.

Some times people here make me wonder. We live in one of the suburbs of Dallas and do not lock our doors during the day, but do so at night. We also lock our doors when we are gone. I sure as heck don't carry a gun in our own house, but I can get to one within 20 seconds. If we go shopping at a Sam's I do not carry any weapon. Maybe your Sam's is in a bad place?

Jimmy

No, my Sams is not in a bad place. I'm trying to develop the habit of carrying every time that I can. As many have pointed out, bad things happen in "safe" places too, so you either have to guess right or carry every time you can.

Someone posted a link yesterday or today (I'll have to find the thread to give proper credit) and I'm really liking the website. [Aside: If you're that person, I encourage you to start a new thread just to point out the link.]

This is one link from that website which explains how the Sam's, mall, concert, etc isn't really the problem area; you're at the most risk in the transition area between the Sam's and the car. http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/fringe.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

[Yankee Girl]

I know for sure that a slow, sure, steady approach is best. We've gotten past her repugnance to the idea of my even owning a holster. Time and patience are my friends.

I have to laugh at the concept of spousal acceptance as a Kaizen activity, although when I step back and think objectively about it, that "small improvement/evaluate/figure out next step/repeat" is pretty close to what CDH and my husband (and some other friends) worked on me ... not only the concept of carrying, but the idea of guns as well-machined objects rather than malevolent evil things in and of themselves. Geez ... I'm a continuous improvement project!

No, we haven't had 50 years together, but going on 26, so I do understand the idea of having to pick one's fights carefully, if you will. I was just concerned with the underlying implications of the word "enemy" and, having recently walked in those shoes, wanted a happy outcome for Baldeagle's wife as well.

[hirundo82]

Even with a ccw permit, it's against Federal Law for a Texas resident to get a handgun as a gift in another state.

I don't want to hijack this thread on this comment but would like to explore it further.

- it is my understanding that I break no laws if I buy a gun in Texas from an individual
- it is my understanding that I can drive to OK to buy a gun from an individual. What is about NC that would make that different?

And if selling a gun individual to individual is OK, could his FIL sell it to him for $1 and have that be legal?

I'm just curious. I have a personal situation that is close to this one but this is a public forum and I'm not going to provide those details.

In a private transaction, both the seller and the buyer must be residents of the same state. If they are not residents of the same state the transaction must go through an FFL.

If the firearm being transferred is a long gun, then it can be an FFL in the seller's state or the buyer's state, so long as the transaction complies with the laws of both states.

If the firearm being transferred is a handgun, the transfer must be performed by an FFL in the recipient's state of residence.

[chasfm11]

If the firearm being transferred is a handgun, the transfer must be performed by an FFL in the recipient's state of residence.

But doesn't that really say that the transaction must go through 2 FFL's? Unless the seller travels to the buyer's State and works through a local FFL there, it appears that the only way to accomplish it is to have the seller work with his/her local FFL to ship it to an FFL in the buyer's State and remain legal.

Based on your description, my inheritance situation was handled legally, though I came very close to doing something that wouldn't have been legal.

I appreciate your clarification.

[chasfm11]

Geez ... I'm a continuous improvement project! .

You are better off than I am. I've taken the same Dale Carnegie course three times and received the award for the "most improved student" each time."

[hirundo82]

If the firearm being transferred is a handgun, the transfer must be performed by an FFL in the recipient's state of residence.

But doesn't that really say that the transaction must go through 2 FFL's? Unless the seller travels to the buyer's State and works through a local FFL there, it appears that the only way to accomplish it is to have the seller work with his/her local FFL to ship it to an FFL in the buyer's State and remain legal.

Based on your description, my inheritance situation was handled legally, though I came very close to doing something that wouldn't have been legal.

I appreciate your clarification.

It is legal for a non-licensee to ship a handgun to an FFL in another state; UPS and FedEx should accept those shipments with a copy of the recieving FFL's license. You just have to make sure your FFL will accept shipments of firearms from non-licensees.

[mctowalot]

My wife gets it. One of her sisters was attacked and killed in her own home. There were signs of an intense struggle. She fought back, even drawing blood from her attacker.

They never caught the murderer.

[rm9792]

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It is legal for a non-licensee to ship a handgun to an FFL in another state; UPS and FedEx should accept those shipments with a copy of the recieving FFL's license. You just have to make sure your FFL will accept shipments of firearms from non-licensees.

If you are that concerned then this is the easiest route. Lots of local FFLs can handle the issue. Personally I think it is a mountain out of a molehill.

[terryg]

Went to Sams today. My first time out with a concealed weapon. When I got home, my wife's first words were, "Did you shoot anybody?"

Got lots of work to do with her.....

Shortly after getting my CHL, I went to Kelly's to pick up baked potatoes for dinner for the family. My 14 year daughter was with me. I got a spot right by the door and so peered over the steering wheel to check for a 30.06 sign. My daughter asked me what I was doing and I replied that I was making sure the restaurant was not posted preventing me from carrying inside. Her reply, was "What does it matter? Its concealed right? Besides, if they don't like you've got something to take car of that, don't you?"

Now, of course, she was kidding - but I was rolling for a minute. When we got home I told my wife her comments - she didn't seem to find it as amusing.

[bdickens]

I shudder to think what kind of marriage some of you people have if you don't keep your spouses in the loop about what you are doing.

[Hoi Polloi]

I shudder to think what kind of marriage some of you people have if you don't keep your spouses in the loop about what you are doing.

[SpringerFan]

My wife did not "get it" at first. The newness wore off and now she could care less. Give it time bro, it will be all good.

[3dfxMM]

So rather than take any chances, I determined that I'd better have a Texas CHL before I get to her father's house.

According to the link you provided your Texas CHL won't help one bit. The NC statutes specifically state that it must be a license issued by NC.