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Just be cautious if you go into a gun shop. Many gun store commandos will try and shoehorn you into a one-sized-fits-all-women's gun category. They will try and sell you the tiniest auto or the shortest barrel snubbie they can. Probably in pink.
I have a Kel-Tec .380 and a RIA .45. The Kel-tec is harder to shoot, less accurate, and plum wears me out after about 50 rounds. I carry the big 5" full size 1911 now that I've gotten a much better holster for it.
Find what feels good in your hands first and foremost. You should be able to manipulate the action of whatever firearm you choose with ease. Try and find a range that rents whatever you're looking at and try it out.