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Have you adopted any of her hobbies? If she has adopted golf, one of your hobbies, she may be expecting you to bend a bit.

I think it's wise to encourage her to shoot for her personal protection, but pushing it on her is the best way to push her away. Use t.v. news stories to start a discussion on the appropriate response to attack. (News stories of people being victimized by criminals are ample, so you won't have to wait long.) Ask her what she would do. Get her thinking about it.

As for the complaints about the money you're spending, ask yourself: How much am I spending? Ammo is expensive, and it isn't getting any cheaper. There are several things you can do to save money on ammunition. Buy generic for practice. Blazer Brass is much cheaper than the premium ammo you would carry. You can also reload. After a small initial investment, you can reload your own at 50% to 70% of the cost of factory.

You can also do the bulk of your practicing with a .22. This ammo costs little. You might spend more in gas getting to and from the ammo counter and the gun range. I think I spent $12 on a box of 550 rounds of .22 last time I purchased.

I had my CHL quite awhile before my dh got in on the action. Initially, he didn't really want me to carry. (Imagine the you'll-shoot-your-eye-out-kid slogan from the 1983 Christmas movie involving a Red Rider BB gun.) After a year of showing an increase in knowledge on the subject and displaying responsibility, he warmed up to the idea, and eventually encouraged me to carry more.

I didn't get him there by fighting him. He had to warm-up to the idea. My actions had to facilitate that.

After his accident, he started to feel his own vulnerability. After our peace-loving youth pastor (and dh's close friend) was attacked after back surgery, Mars realized that violence doesn't only happen to people that live questionable lifestyles. He now carries every time we go somewhere.

It doesn't happen overnight. You can't change your spouse, but you can change yourself and your own behaviors. You would be surprised at the impact your own changes will have on her thoughts. This will require change, time, and patience on your part. Are you up to it?