The Annoyed Man wrote:Springfield XDS-9mm would be worth a look, if you're limiting yourself to single stack guns. If double stacks are under consideration, the XDM-9mm 3.8 Compact is an impressive gun, and very soft shooting.
I agree completely, I have shot both in 9mm have small hands and have noticed little difference in recoil I normally shoot XDm 40 am small framed and very round I have no problems concealing it